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Your Chaos Thermostat
When all you really want is peace… But your nervous system was programmed in an environment that knew of no such thing. Damn... “Relationship Programming” is the term I use to describe the impact of our upbringings on our present-day core beliefs, behaviors, & relational patterns. Part of this “programming” includes the fact that the amount of chaos we experienced throughout our upbringings directly impacted our nervous systems... and resulted in our brains being wired for a specific level of chaos… leading to what I call our “Chaos Thermostat.” |
What exactly do I mean by this?
When you think of a thermostat, it gets set for a certain temperature... and when the room temperature changes... this results in either hot or cold air being released (depending on what is needed) to get the room temperature back to baseline.
Sooo.... when you think about the chaos you experienced throughout your upbringing, and how this set a baseline for your own thermostat...
You might be able to recognize how when your chaos temperature gets too high, you are likely to seek out comfort and safety... yet when that chaos temperature starts to drop beyond what you are used to (yes, meaning that things are going well, and that you are actually feeling happy, safe, and peaceful...).
Thennn.... are you ready for this?!
Yep, you guessed it... you are then likely to seek events to boost it back up to your normal temperature... unfortunately, this does mean that depending on where your thermostat is set... there is a good chance that you will subconsciously seek out chaos to get it back to baseline when things are going too “smoothly” or when you fear that something might be “too good to be true.”
So, what in the world are we supposed to do about this?! well, simply put, we have to put in the work to (re)program it… this is the only way we can get the baseline to a lower, safer, more regulated place… so that we can stop self-sabotaging every time things start going well for us.
Your current “chaos thermostat” is not your fault... but it is your responsibility to take the steps to heal and (re)program... so that you can finally learn how to find, create, and sustain the safe and fulfilling relationships that you so deeply desire & deserve.
After countless requests, I’m beyond excited to finally share that the relationship coaching model I’ve developed, Relationship (Re)Programming, is now available in an exclusive online course! 🎉
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🔑 What you’ll gain:
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- Strategies to move from pain and fear... to safety and connection