When It's Good... It's So Good

But, what about when it’s not?!

If you have caught yourself saying this about your relationship, “When it’s good… it’s so good!”

Let this serve as your first clue… that it is, in fact, not good.

And furthermore… that you might be caught up in the infamous toxic cycle.

A toxic relationship is characterized by a repeated cycle... in which one or both partner(s) is unwilling to consistently treat the other partner in a healthy, safe, and loving way..

And yet, in spite of this, they are both unwilling to permanently remove themselves from this relationship.

A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP CONSISTS OF THE FOLLOWING FEEDBACK LOOP:

1. Starts with a state of infatuation (feels like love and connection).

2. Everything is going smoothly at first... and then a situation takes place... and someone gets triggered.

3. That person then reacts to the triggering situation by using their “Survival Behaviors” (lashing out, shutting down, etc.), which then triggers the other partner’s “Survival Behaviors.”

4. These triggers, reactions, and Survival Behaviors keep compounding and lead to a build up of tension, conflict, and fear.

5. The peak of this tension results in a blow up (volatile, hurtful things are said & done, both partners are activated and fearful).

6. This results in one or both partner(s) “ending” the relationship.

7. After spending some time apart... intense “cravings” for each other start to creep in... and gradually increases.

8. One partner puts out “feelers”... and starts to slowly pursue.

9. The other partner responds to this, warms back up, & engages.

10. Nothing is discussed... nor effectively processed or resolved.

11. Each partner re-engages and feels relief to be back in contact.

... Anddddd back to step one.

Like really… somebody… please make it stoppp!!

The never-ending cycle of toxicity, emotional turmoil, frustration, and lack of fulfillment… that just keeps circling back around like the merry-go-round from hell

Trust me… I get it!

I’ve been there too… and I had to work really hard to understand what was happening, why I felt so trapped, and what to do to finally break free…

And that’s exactly what I’m here to help you do as well.

These relationships are not just about harmless “drama”… they aren’t about personality differences, compatibility issues, or a lack of communication skills…

They are actually quite destructive… and incredibly damaging to our self-esteem, mental health, and overall wellbeing.

If you can relate… it’s time to break free.

That is why I created (RE)PROGRAMMED…

My private podcast designed to help you break free from unhealthy relationship cycles and step into the secure, fulfilling connections you deserve.

Inside, you’ll find 10 powerful episodes + 15 downloadable tools to help you finally stop repeating the past and start (Re)Programming for a safe, healthy, loving future.